"She has started *her real life*" Frankly, if someone were to tell my children that I've gotten to start my REAL life once I was removed from them, I would be pissed. THIS IS MY REAL LIFE. This is the life God gave me. This is what I do. It is real. Really, really real. And it matters. It matters a lot. The here and now is our space, people. Why are we encouraged to think otherwise?
I think that, though well-meaning, so many of these sayings end up diminishing the incredible loss that people have experienced.
A child is now motherless.
A man is now a widower.
A sister has lost her sister.
Parents have buried their child.
Friends are left with a huge loss.
No talk of "our heavenly home" can diminish the depth of the loss. I feel concerned that perhaps the children of dead parents hear these things and feel that their loss doesn't really count, in light of eternity.